Comments on: What’s With Dress Clothes for Boys? I Search for Clothes and Belonging.

By: Maya

Maya — Mon, 22 Mar 2010 18:56:11 +0000

I could have written this post, Molly. I have two boys, Ethan 3 1/2 and Caleb 1 1/2 and a daughter who was born between them(Elizabeth should be 2 1/2). I have a box of her clothes in my closet. I bought a bunch of girly things after I found out we were having a girl. When I came home from the hospital without her, they were still in the bags in my room. I threw them in a corner with my maternity clothes! I now have them neatly packed away and long for her to come back. I recently bought some dresses for a future hoped-for girl.
I still am tempted by the pretty dresses and also get frustrated by skull dress shirts and dress pants with Mickey on them! Do boys clothes designers really think I have to have a cartoon caracter on every article of clothing?! :)

By: Laurie

Laurie — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 19:54:09 +0000

It seems like anger can be a “protection” from pain, but pain returns and the tears sting. Just when we think we’ve made some strides toward relinquishing grief, we’re smack dab in the midst of reminders… again. Smack dab in the midst of something unexpected and the hurt like chest crushing breathlessness and mind piercing pain returns.
Grief is stirred up. We cry hot tears (or choke them away, sometimes, if possible, when we’re in public). Anger is quenched and we are comforted again as we remember where we belong.
Blessings.

By: Kate

Kate — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 04:24:16 +0000

amen, molly. well put. thanks for sharing this beautiful process of the LORD’s grace and kindness to us. i love you and your boys (and shopping for them for Christmas gear at marshalls :) ) and felicity, who is dressed in glorious array even now.

By: Christine

Christine — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 01:24:35 +0000

How true! I don’t have a girl, but do know the frustration of trying to find cute nice boy clothes that are acceptable. You hit it right on the dot. Now just add shoes to the mix. I can never seem to find nice, affordable, cute shoes that don’t have characters on them. Then there is the selections-SMALL!

By: sumi

sumi — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 05:21:50 +0000

Molly…I can so relate. Oh, how I miss the pink clothing in my laundry basket, and the ‘girliness’ that little Jenna injected into our household in the short time she was here. I am blessed with three boys – Jenna’s older brothers. But I miss my little girly, having her was a dream come true and now she is gone.

That sounds so woe-is-me-ish, doesn’t it? I am really at peace and I trust that God allowed it to happen for reasons that I can’t see yet. I have found acceptance.

Still, there is this ache in my heart that will always be there, and I’m OK with that, because it means that Jenna isn’t forgotten.

I get what you are trying to say, I really do.

HUGS!

By: Allison

Allison — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 23:22:58 +0000

Molly, thank you for your honesty, transparency, and real-ness. Honest because you write what we all feel, transparent because you pull back the veil from your heart and God uses your words to pull back the veil on mine, and real-ness in that you are who you are. So thank you.

By: Tracey

Tracey — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 20:27:44 +0000

I know I’m behind here, but there is the Easter dress clothing dilemna as well, coming up. I found too, when my son was young, not many choices for nice things for him, so I made them. It does take a bit of looking for nice things at a good price. The Gap and Children’s place werent around like today for my son, they are great choices.

I don’t know how it feels to lose a child, I can only accept what you say about the pain. I believe this is by design, and I am now thinking of Chelsea King, a local girl who had moved a couple years ago to CA and was found dead yesterday, after going for a run in a local public park. By design, those of us who haven’t experienced this loss aren’t allowed to know, because then life for all of us would feel so hopeless. We feel a heartbreak and a pit in our stomach, but a minute one compared to yours and in the King’s case, theirs. I have read your stories and every time feel a sadness for you. God bless you.

By: deb t

deb t — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 14:40:09 +0000

Thanks for your honesty and allowing emotions to flow. You go, girl!!! Thanks, too, for pointing us to Jesus, who is touched with the feeling of our infirmities. Right there with ya, Molly!!!

By: Melissa

Melissa — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 17:21:14 +0000

I have this same dilemma with buying clothes for my one son. Even 2T clothes too often look like teenager clothes from the local public school. What’s with that?
And as for the pain, I have lost 5 babies (I don’t even know how many of them were my daughters – and weep over the lost pigtails and bows and patent leather Mary Janes), and I just hate shopping now. Most of the time I try to do internet shopping if I can, to have more control over what I see and what I sift through. Seeing the clothes that I “could have” been buying is so hard.
But thank you for the beautiful post, for sharing your heart, for starting conversation, and for identifying with so many of us bereaved mamas.
The Lord bless you.

By: sarah

sarah — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 15:22:15 +0000

. . .sending you love and a warm hug from someone far away . . . :)

(Sidenote: at Old Navy in Canada at least, I saw some supercute boy clothes, including a shirt with wee tie, seemingly reasonably-priced.)