Comments on: There Is No Timetable

By: purple moose

purple moose — Sat, 06 Nov 2010 03:58:44 +0000

months 2 thru 11 after miscarrying were hard for me. That covered Thanksgiving (we’re christians, we should be thankful for “everything”) Christmas (i didn’t want to see another baby or pregnant woman, but that was hard to get away from with the focus on baby Jesus), the wanting to be pregnant but not, and the being pregnant and afraid to lose another baby. Only this past month things have calmed down. Am now expecting another baby, the end of the month. Hoping and praying things go well, altho we know they dont always!

By: Barb

Barb — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 16:55:43 +0000

“Her private moments probably contain a lot of agony.”

Too true. This is what no one sees.

By: Leslie Camp

Leslie Camp — Tue, 08 Jul 2008 17:11:38 +0000

I’m sitting here weeping at my computer almost a month past my son’s would-be 7th birthday. Ethan was stillborn on June 24th, 2001. Even now, seven years, two early miscarriages, and three wonderful, beautiful live births later, I want to hold Ethan so bad. Of course, I am not this blubbering mess all the time, but I still have moments!

My husband and I have not made a big deal out of Ethan’s birthday every year, but this year it seemed appropriate. We went to his grave site, where we left flowers and our other kids left toys. We had a good long cry and reminisced about the pregnancy and the day Ethan was born, etc. We shared some of our memories with friends and family via e-mail. We have been encouraged to keep this written record of our memories, because as your husbands recent post stated so well, it is so easy to forget.

By: shawnda

shawnda — Thu, 03 Apr 2008 18:21:37 +0000

Thanks for the post, sister. Thinking of you and praying for you!

LOVE YOU!

By: Stacey

Stacey — Wed, 02 Apr 2008 18:05:51 +0000

Hey Molly, just a heads up….I gave your blog link and Abers link to a girl that lives in Erie. I read her blog and she reciprocates. She is not from Erie, but lives in Erie while her hubby goes to LECOM. She was talking on her blog yesterday about a book she was reading by Aber’s dad. I left a comment stating, how weird (not weird she was reading the book), but just weird how people somehow get connected through other things. Anyway…gave her your blog and Aber’s to take a look at. Hope today is a good day. Good reading your grieving series. I am sure just writing this has helped. Now I am like Danielle………ugh, this should have been an email or telephone call. Jiminy Christmas! Did you make your cookies yet? I might as well keep going since I have written thus much hehehehehe. Tell Horison that Maxwell says HI. Everytime we go for a walk, there is a house down the street that has their garage door open and there is a little tykes car in there and he thinks that is Horison’s house. LOL……Love ya!

By: Melanie

Melanie — Wed, 02 Apr 2008 16:12:41 +0000

Molly – I’ve been reading your blog since I found out from Shawnda K. that you lost Felicity. I had 6 weeks left to go with my second pregnancy and ached for you greatly, especially after my son was born.

My cousin lost her daughter, very similar to you losing Felicity, almost 2 years ago, when I was only 7 weeks pregnant with my first child (a daughter, whose middle name is that of her precious 2nd cousin). My cousin’s grief came in fazes, like yours. But, she really liked talking about Brooke. She wanted to share her with friends and family, but friends and family rarely asked to “see” Brooke because they didn’t know how she would take it. What about you? Do you like sharing your daughter’s mementos? Would it help my friends if I asked to hear and “see” her lost child?

My cousin has poured herself into an Infant Loss Support group in Winston-Salem, NC called Heartstrings. I actually photographed their annual walk of 2007 (one of their primary fundraisers). Here is their website (http://www.heartstringssupport.org). You might be a good advocate for something like this up in Minneapolis. I know that this group has grown so much since it’s beginnings.

Anyway, I’ve decided not to lurk anymore and comment. :-) I enjoy reading your blog immensely. Blessings to you.

By: ashley

ashley — Wed, 02 Apr 2008 14:15:19 +0000

I am fighting the urge to say something about not knowing you, but I’ll refrain (thanks). Thank you for this series, I wold love to post a link to it if you don’t mind. I appreciate the reassurance that there isn’t a time table and there isn’t a formula or right way to expect things to go. I so much would love to share this insight with others, not that they have done anything wrong, but maybe so that they may better understand and help others who are grieving.

By: jennifer

jennifer — Wed, 02 Apr 2008 11:07:58 +0000

Thank you for your insights. I have a friend at church who is grieving the loss of her newborn. She posted a link to your blog on hers. I have had questions for her about what she needs from others and your comments have put things into great perspective for me, someone who can’t relate to her on this level. Thank you for your honesty.

By: Jessica

Jessica — Wed, 02 Apr 2008 02:44:29 +0000

Thank you for this series.
I posted a link on my blog. Is that ok?
Your words ring true and really I do relate…

By: Dana Cordell

Dana Cordell — Tue, 01 Apr 2008 16:06:42 +0000

your words are so full, Molly. I feel like i can see your eyes and your quivering lips as i read your post… Sister, my heart still aches as i think about your precious girl. I love her… I love you and am grieving with you from miles away. Your honesty and humility will be used in so many other women who are walking this road with you. I am here for you for the long haul, i have no timetable!
dana lynn