Comments on: How to Help Your Grieving Friend http://mollypiper.com/2008/03/how-to-help-your-grieving-friend/ Just another WordPress weblog Tue, 07 Feb 2012 15:12:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: How to Help a Grieving Friend / What to Say « Just Do the Next Thing http://mollypiper.com/2008/03/how-to-help-your-grieving-friend/#comment-31782 How to Help a Grieving Friend / What to Say « Just Do the Next Thing Wed, 11 May 2011 07:42:31 +0000 http://thepipers.wordpress.com/?p=32#comment-31782 [...] was written by a young Mom who had a still born daughter in 2007.  Its a great series entitled How to Help Your Grieving Friend.  There are 10 posts in the series and I would encourage you to read them [...] [...] was written by a young Mom who had a still born daughter in 2007.  Its a great series entitled How to Help Your Grieving Friend.  There are 10 posts in the series and I would encourage you to read them [...]

]]> By: jennifer http://mollypiper.com/2008/03/how-to-help-your-grieving-friend/#comment-30899 jennifer Mon, 02 May 2011 01:05:32 +0000 http://thepipers.wordpress.com/?p=32#comment-30899 Molly, I wanted to thank you for sharing your wisdom through your process of grief. I am also a mom who had to experience the death of her baby. My beautiful baby boy was only 4 days old. We knew about his very bad prognosis from week 18 gestation...and we got to have those 4 days with him. Anyhow, I hope you don't mind that as I shared with my church today on our grieving process, I told them to look up your website here. I also shared a lot from what you have written here...and just wanted to thank you for that. May God continue to be our rock until we are reunited with our beloved babies. Molly,

I wanted to thank you for sharing your wisdom through your process of grief. I am also a mom who had to experience the death of her baby. My beautiful baby boy was only 4 days old. We knew about his very bad prognosis from week 18 gestation…and we got to have those 4 days with him. Anyhow, I hope you don’t mind that as I shared with my church today on our grieving process, I told them to look up your website here. I also shared a lot from what you have written here…and just wanted to thank you for that.
May God continue to be our rock until we are reunited with our beloved babies.

]]> By: Rebekah http://mollypiper.com/2008/03/how-to-help-your-grieving-friend/#comment-27391 Rebekah Wed, 23 Mar 2011 21:59:33 +0000 http://thepipers.wordpress.com/?p=32#comment-27391 Thank you so much for this series. It's refreshing to have someone put into words what I could not express in the time right after delivering my daughter, stillborn at 39 weeks. I still struggle at times with things that people will say or not say to me. I often feel that she is forgotten too easily by those who should love me enough to remember her. I'm so thankful though that when those moments come, God has been ever faithful to bring someone else along to assure me that No, she hasn't been forgotten, and though I have am now mother to four boys, some still remember that I do have a daughter waiting for me in heaven. Thank you for your heart and for your honesty. I pray the Lord continues to heal and bless you and your family. Thank you so much for this series. It’s refreshing to have someone put into words what I could not express in the time right after delivering my daughter, stillborn at 39 weeks. I still struggle at times with things that people will say or not say to me. I often feel that she is forgotten too easily by those who should love me enough to remember her. I’m so thankful though that when those moments come, God has been ever faithful to bring someone else along to assure me that No, she hasn’t been forgotten, and though I have am now mother to four boys, some still remember that I do have a daughter waiting for me in heaven.
Thank you for your heart and for your honesty. I pray the Lord continues to heal and bless you and your family.

]]> By: LHughes http://mollypiper.com/2008/03/how-to-help-your-grieving-friend/#comment-26212 LHughes Fri, 11 Mar 2011 18:15:27 +0000 http://thepipers.wordpress.com/?p=32#comment-26212 I just discovered your blog a couple weeks ago and I wanted to let you know how much I have appreciated reading your posts on helping a grieving friend. This has literally been a common topic of discussion between my husband and I lately - my complete incompetence in helping those who are suffering. I've had people tell me what isn't helpful, but I've never had anyone articulate so well what is helpful. Thank you. I just discovered your blog a couple weeks ago and I wanted to let you know how much I have appreciated reading your posts on helping a grieving friend. This has literally been a common topic of discussion between my husband and I lately – my complete incompetence in helping those who are suffering. I’ve had people tell me what isn’t helpful, but I’ve never had anyone articulate so well what is helpful. Thank you.

]]> By: Tracey http://mollypiper.com/2008/03/how-to-help-your-grieving-friend/#comment-23921 Tracey Wed, 09 Feb 2011 21:28:13 +0000 http://thepipers.wordpress.com/?p=32#comment-23921 Thank you again for sharing your heart. I found your blog last year when a friend from church was beginning her journey down this path. Now I come back a year later as I watch my niece begin the same journey. Your words will help me minister to her. Thank you for being willing to be used of God in ALL things. Bless your heart! Thank you again for sharing your heart. I found your blog last year when a friend from church was beginning her journey down this path. Now I come back a year later as I watch my niece begin the same journey. Your words will help me minister to her.

Thank you for being willing to be used of God in ALL things. Bless your heart!

]]> By: Praise for simple birthdays « Heart Pondering http://mollypiper.com/2008/03/how-to-help-your-grieving-friend/#comment-18495 Praise for simple birthdays « Heart Pondering Sat, 04 Dec 2010 04:39:17 +0000 http://thepipers.wordpress.com/?p=32#comment-18495 [...] of John Piper, she's a gifted writer herself and especially powerful on topics of grief and grieving since her daughter's stillbirth in 2007.]  Molly [...] [...] of John Piper, she's a gifted writer herself and especially powerful on topics of grief and grieving since her daughter's stillbirth in 2007.]  Molly [...]

]]> By: Ellie http://mollypiper.com/2008/03/how-to-help-your-grieving-friend/#comment-9519 Ellie Wed, 19 May 2010 16:40:20 +0000 http://thepipers.wordpress.com/?p=32#comment-9519 Molly, I came across a reference to your blog posts on dealing with grief and I cannot thank you enough for being so open and sincere about the loss of your precious daughter Felicity. Two years ago I had a miscarriage when my sweet Noah was only about 12 weeks along. It was the hardest thing I have ever been through! When reading your blogs I was able to find such comfort... I shared many of your emotions and thought about many of the same things you wrote about, but was never able to articulate it so well. Sometimes it is hard to see the "good" (Rom. 8:28) in losing a child, but I know that God is good and that is enough for me. I am definitely better able to minister to others who are grieving the loss of a child because of my own experience, and for that I am grateful. I think what surprised me the most when I first lost Noah was how much well-meaning people could hurt me with their words! I heard comments like "well, at least you already have 3 other children" or "you can always have another one." People didn't seem to understand that a child is not like a gold fish that you "replace" with another... Thanks again for writing and helping me deal with my loss. I still have my moments of grief two years later. I can't help but think about how old Noah would have been and the things he would be doing if he were here with me. I suppose I will deal with these emotions until we meet again in heaven. your sister in Christ, Ellie Molly,

I came across a reference to your blog posts on dealing with grief and I cannot thank you enough for being so open and sincere about the loss of your precious daughter Felicity. Two years ago I had a miscarriage when my sweet Noah was only about 12 weeks along. It was the hardest thing I have ever been through! When reading your blogs I was able to find such comfort… I shared many of your emotions and thought about many of the same things you wrote about, but was never able to articulate it so well. Sometimes it is hard to see the “good” (Rom. 8:28) in losing a child, but I know that God is good and that is enough for me. I am definitely better able to minister to others who are grieving the loss of a child because of my own experience, and for that I am grateful.

I think what surprised me the most when I first lost Noah was how much well-meaning people could hurt me with their words! I heard comments like “well, at least you already have 3 other children” or “you can always have another one.” People didn’t seem to understand that a child is not like a gold fish that you “replace” with another…

Thanks again for writing and helping me deal with my loss. I still have my moments of grief two years later. I can’t help but think about how old Noah would have been and the things he would be doing if he were here with me. I suppose I will deal with these emotions until we meet again in heaven.

your sister in Christ,
Ellie

]]> By: Molly Howsden http://mollypiper.com/2008/03/how-to-help-your-grieving-friend/#comment-8414 Molly Howsden Wed, 14 Apr 2010 19:16:43 +0000 http://thepipers.wordpress.com/?p=32#comment-8414 Thank you for posting this. My 2nd daughter was born on 5 October 2009 and was diagnosed with Spinal Muscular Atrophy (similar to a lou gehrig's/ALS disease in infants). She died 3 weeks later. I have a blog and I've been struggling with trying to find the "right" things to post on the blog to express how I feel and you have said exactly how I feel and in in a beautiful way. My friends have been wonderful but I think part of my daughter's legacy is helping people who haven't or never will go through such a tragedy as losing a child will better understand the whole grieving process and in turn help someone else. Thank you. Molly Thank you for posting this. My 2nd daughter was born on 5 October 2009 and was diagnosed with Spinal Muscular Atrophy (similar to a lou gehrig’s/ALS disease in infants). She died 3 weeks later. I have a blog and I’ve been struggling with trying to find the “right” things to post on the blog to express how I feel and you have said exactly how I feel and in in a beautiful way.
My friends have been wonderful but I think part of my daughter’s legacy is helping people who haven’t or never will go through such a tragedy as losing a child will better understand the whole grieving process and in turn help someone else.
Thank you.
Molly

]]> By: Gabrielle http://mollypiper.com/2008/03/how-to-help-your-grieving-friend/#comment-8370 Gabrielle Mon, 12 Apr 2010 18:18:49 +0000 http://thepipers.wordpress.com/?p=32#comment-8370 Molly, I read all of your posts on this issue when I first started following your blog a few weeks ago, and your honesty brought tears to my eyes. I hurt for the pain you guys had as you dealt with it, and still do deal with the pain of losing a baby. Now, weeks later, a friend has just lost her full-term baby. I've now shared your blog with friends, so that we can attempt to comfort her and share in her pain right now and in the next several months. Thank you for letting the Lord use you through your blog. Molly,

I read all of your posts on this issue when I first started following your blog a few weeks ago, and your honesty brought tears to my eyes. I hurt for the pain you guys had as you dealt with it, and still do deal with the pain of losing a baby.

Now, weeks later, a friend has just lost her full-term baby. I’ve now shared your blog with friends, so that we can attempt to comfort her and share in her pain right now and in the next several months. Thank you for letting the Lord use you through your blog.

]]> By: Приколист http://mollypiper.com/2008/03/how-to-help-your-grieving-friend/#comment-8220 Приколист Tue, 06 Apr 2010 02:14:29 +0000 http://thepipers.wordpress.com/?p=32#comment-8220 Люди киньте плиз линк на оригинал! Люди киньте плиз линк на оригинал!

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